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Grief Support Testimonials
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"I saw Deb after the suicide of my fiancé. I had taken a month off work and done the traditional
things to help with the tragedy, but then 3 or 4 months later it seemed as though the true reality of it
had set in and it was affecting my ability to function in daily life; I understand now what it means to be
paralyzed with grief. At our first session, Deb introduced me to the EFT method. I honestly thought the basic fundamentals of it seemed a little silly at first, and somewhat doubted how it may help me, but I was open and willing to try anything. We quickly recognized that the feeling of Guilt was the stage of grieving which my mind was not able to get past. That feeling was quickly linked to ‘feeling alone’, and eventually the sense of Abandonment. Although I wasn't positive at this point why I was stuck on ‘Abandonment’, I felt extremely relieved that progress identifying my problem had already been achieved - and in only about 2 hours! By the next week, I felt that we had gotten down to the root of the issue, and now I wanted to know why the idea of being ‘Abandoned’ was sticking with me so much. With my permission, Deb introduced Hypnosis. I was also quite skeptical of this method. I felt that I had a memory from my childhood that ‘Abandonment’ may have come from - so how was I to know that my mind wasn't going to play tricks and state the obvious rather than truly dig down into my subconscious? Hypnosis is nothing like they portray in the movies. I remember every detail of it. I felt as though I was in control were I need to stop. The answers and information I was able to provide when under hypnosis surprised me. The end result was that I was unable to get over the guilt for my fiancé because I knew that ‘feeling alone’ must have played a part in his death. I'd had a seemingly small instance in my childhood in which I had felt alone and abandoned, and the guilt was nagging because I had felt as he had before he died, but I wasn't able to do anything for him even though I had also experienced it. In the end, the ‘chain’ makes perfect sense to me, and everyone I've told this story to. However this is something that may have taken months or years in traditional therapy to discover and it took Deb and I only 2 sessions. After the second session, I felt the sense of utter calmness and ease, sort of like an ‘oh, that's it’ feeling. I didn't feel the need to go back for more sessions after that, as I suddenly felt very stable and balanced. Although of course, I still think about my fiancé every day, there isn't a feeling of guilt that overwhelms me regarding the subject. I have no doubt whatsoever that without Deb's help using EFT and Hypnosis that I would be even more miserable today than I was before I saw her. It has been 7 months since his death, and although delicately, I have reached a certain level of peace with it and have been able to move forward in my life. Thank you SO much Deb! " H.R. |
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| Anonymous |